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Developing a cordial and courteous relationship with your in-laws is a wonderful objective, but it’s also a good idea to handle conversations carefully.
Even with the greatest of intentions, some subjects can cause miscommunications, awkward situations, or needless conflict.
The following 9 things are best avoided when speaking with your in-laws, particularly in the beginning:
1. The flaws in your relationship
Even while it could be easy to make a lighthearted grumble about your spouse, keep in mind that it’s their child. Even minor critiques can come across as rude or unappreciative. You and your partner should have those conversations in private.
2. Money matters
Personal information includes your income and expenses, debt, and financial situation. Talking about money can result in judgments or unsolicited advice. If funding or participation is needed, keep the discussion civil and restricted to the information that is absolutely necessary.
3. Previous relationships
It can be awkward or even cause insecurities to bring about your or your partner’s previous relationships. You don’t have to relive or retell your personal history in front of your in-laws.
4. Parenting problems
Your in-laws may have ideas about how to raise your children if you have any. Even if their counsel might be based on experience, it can be tense to openly disagree with their approaches or disparage their parenting style. Respectfully establish boundaries without getting into an argument.
5. The secrets of your partner
You might occasionally be aware of details about your partner that their parents are unaware of. Whether it’s adult decisions or mischievous childhood behavior, don’t be the one to reveal those secrets. Keep your trust and respect their privacy.
6. Family rumors
Don’t gossip or disparage members of your extended family. It can cause conflict and backfire. Neutrality is frequently the safest course in family dynamics.
7. Religion and politics
These subjects can lead to conflict unless you are positive that you both agree. Religious or political differences can quickly become heated, so proceed with caution or avoid them completely.
8. Your conflicts with them
If something somebody said or did irritates you, politely and sparingly bring it up. It can cause long-term harm to vent or complain to them directly in the heat of the moment. If required, communicate with your partner or use diplomacy.
9. Your need for space
Without empathy, statements like “We need space” or “We don’t want visitors right now” could be interpreted as rejection. “We’d love to have some quiet time this weekend to recharge,” is one example of how to lovingly and inclusively frame such boundaries.
